Wednesday, April 2, 2008
A Sad Day for my Family
I hesitated to post this because sometimes these things are hard to talk about, and I know that there's enough sadness in the world today without going to a blog to see scrapbook pages and cards, only to find more. But, since I needed to change my profile, I felt I needed to put a post here about this. My oldest daughter, who was expecting in October, has lost her baby at 12 weeks. She had called me yesterday morning to say she thought there was a problem with the amniotic fluid (she thought she was losing fluid). Of course she was distraught. She had called the doctor, who told her to make an appointment when the office opened. I met her and my son-in-law at the doctor's office at 9:15. We finally saw the doctor at 10:30 or so, who didn't even realize what she was there for. She thought it was a regular checkup. She ran back out to get an assistant and the small sonogram machine they called "grandma." She seemed encouraged and said that the fluid was intact but quickly sent us to have a full sonogram done. I thought all was well and called a few people to tell them that. But, when we went for the full sonogram, the doctor told us that there were two concerns: 1-the baby's bladder never developed properly and when it started to produce fluids, they had no way to leave the baby's body. He showed us on the sonogram that the baby's bladder was extended. 2-they could not find a heartbeat. When he said that, of course my daughter started sobbing. (And Mom did too.) The first thing my daughter said after the doctor left was that God took this baby to heaven because it was not perfect. Our faith is strong, but our hearts are broken for this sweet baby, who we'll have to postpone meeting until we get to heaven. In my mind, I will always remember seeing those perfect little hands in the sonogram picture. If you're a praying person, I ask that you say a little prayer for us -- especially my daughter and son-in-law. There will be some tough days ahead. We thank God for Ashlyn though. We know that God has already given them a beautiful child, and we have faith that He will give them another one someday.